Debbie: loss of a grandchild

On 4th April, 2014, the life of my 4th grandchild, my son’s first child was ended in an abortion clinic.  This child’s parents had dated for 2 years, become engaged, bought baby clothes and furniture, and named their child, Cole James for a boy, Lyra Grace for a girl.

Nothing we did to reassure this young mother of our support, even after she and my son had planned for their baby and were excitedly welcoming him or her, could overcome the fears and insecurities that others close to her magnify in her mind…  She wouldn’t be able to manage a baby and complete her education…  She would lose her entire youth…  She would never be supported in the way we had promised…   all lies.

She was cut off from those most trying to help her, by those who did not want to support her in her decision to have her baby, but instead were determined to ensure she rode the conveyor belt of doubt and fear all the way to abortion.

My son learned of the circumstances of his child’s death 2 days later when he woke to find the mother crying on his doorstep about the terrible mistake she had made.

He was broken.

We all are.

Abortion does not just hurt women and their children.  It hurts the fathers of the children.  It leaves a gap in a family where a child should be, a child who was wanted, and already loved.  It is a pathway of destruction that no woman deserves..

13 Responses to Debbie: loss of a grandchild

  • Lyn says:

    In tears as I read this. So avoidable and yet pressure has pushed this already emotional mother to feel unworthy to have her baby. Wake up parents! Pregnancy and having a baby are not as bad as you make out. Post abortion grief is far, far worse.

    • Deborah says:

      God Bless You for sharing your story and, while your loss is immeasurable, rest assured that this precious child returned to the hand of God from which they came.

      My son, whom they told me was likely to have Downs Syndrome was born in 1987. I was willing to give birth to a Downs baby — it was not a question. But he was born healthy in every way and, today, I live to hear from my wonderful son whom I know would be there for me if tomorrow I needed him there.

      Part of the driving force of the purveyors of abortion is the encouraging of false beliefs: that parenthood is hard — that finances will always be a concern — that kids are a distraction — that your bosses won’t understand the challenges you face. None of this is true! In fact, you belong to a core group of individuals forevermore — those who love parenting and their children.

      Parenting is a privilege. And if you don’t believe that, just ask a childless couple who cannot conceive.

  • Chareen says:

    Heartbroken for you all. Hugs

  • Naomi says:

    Debbie you’ve been in my prayers. I will continue to pray for healing and restoration.

  • Donalee says:

    Dear Debbie,
    I am so sorry for your loss and the loss the baby is to your whole family.

    The lifestyle that her parents were worried about her losing, they have ensured that she has already lost, replacing all the possiblities that come with life to replace it with a life of regrets and recriminations of death.
    If she already admits she made a terrible mistake how will she feel about those that forced her into making it? I pray they all turn to God so as to experience His healing in their lives.
    I also wept for the fact that none of our grandchildren are safe from this scourge and no matter how hard we work, pray and sacrifice to end this holocaust it may still claim our own children’s children’s lives, devastating any families in it’s wake.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and the parents of this child.

    God bless,

  • Maryse says:

    Praying for you and your family over this loss of a much-loved grandchild. Very courageous of you Debbie to share this story.

  • Teresa says:

    As my tears fall reading your story Debbie, I hear the pieces of your heart falling into an unfathomable depth, joining your son’s and his girlfriends……..
    There is no earthly healing for this pain – only spiritual, but that is a long long journey. Know that we are there beside you praying for you and walking with you and your family through this long sorrow-filled path.
    May God wrap His arms around you all and heal you.
    With love and prayers,

  • Dan says:

    Thankyou for sharing this circumstance.
    Your love for that baby lives on with the beautiful baby in heaven.
    One day you will have a wonderful reunion.
    May God comfort you and strengthen you in your love for mothers and babies everywhere.
    With love,
    Dan & Jenny

  • Evelyn says:

    Although this story is truly sad, it saddens me further that no one ever listened to this girl and suggested the option of adoption. That would also have been heartbreaking for the family, but not like abortion.

    I did give a baby up for adoption in 1984 and it has never been a bad experience in any way. My family, who were not supportive, did get over it fairly quickly. (I made the decision soon after getting pregnant). Please readers! Let’s spread the word, there is not just the two options: abortion or keeping a baby. Please remember adoption!

  • Joan says:

    Dear, Debbie,

    I am still processing this horrible and praying The Lord will wrap His arms around you and your whole fa family. Jesus You are our only hope whe everything seems hopeless. I even feel helpless too.

    Love and prayers,

  • Jaclyn says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying the Lord will heal you and the baby’s parents, and bring comfort to your whole family.
    Love you,
    The Goodpasters

  • Laurellynne says:

    What a tragic loss for all of you and it breaks my heart beyond words. How does one appropriately respond to something like this………the truth is I can’t. In my heart what I feel the need to say is the greatest reunions ever held will be with those who have suffered the loss of children, glorious will those moments be as you stand before our Father reunited with your child.
    With Love

  • Christine Rosemel Dialing says:

    You are in my prayers….May God will heal you and your family and give you peace….

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