Post Abortion Grief

It is not uncommon for women to experience an initial feeling of relief following abortion.     Finding out you are unexpectedly pregnant, and the time leading to having an abortion can be very anxiety filled.    For some women the first sense of it all ‘being over’ brings with it a reduced feeling of anxiety.

Some women also experience an immediate sense of regret, wishing that they could turn back time and make a different decision.

Whatever your experience, you can be assured that many other women have felt what you have felt, even though their reasons for abortion, their life circumstances, and their ways of coping may differ.

Some of the more common symptoms that women who are struggling after an abortion experience include:

  • nightmares and flashbacks to the abortion
  • constant crying, or crying for no reason
  • sexual problems
  • a desire to become pregnant again
  • guilt
  • intense grief and sadness
  • emotional numbness
  • anger at yourself and others
  • suicidal urges
  • excessive drug or alcohol use
  • anxiety and panic attacks
  • feelings of remorse and regret

If you are troubled by any of these symptoms either soon after, or sometimes many years after your abortion,  and these symptoms are affecting your every day life in a negative way it is important that you find someone that you can trust to talk to.

Sometimes just sharing your story with other women who have been there can be very helpful.