Comments on: Sandra

By: Mal

Mal — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 23:47:36 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story, Sandra. I experienced something similar, where I acted without thnking – I had a condom fail with my boyfriend and immediately went to the GP the next day for the morning after pill, because “that’s what you do when that happens”. I had read about it heaps of times in magazines. it wasn’t until after I had taken the pill that I realized that if I had conceived I had basically had an abortion. While I don’t know if I was actually pregnant, I did that way too automatically, just taking pill so I don’t get pregnant, rather than thinking through that if I am pregnant, the pill will kill my child — I did not fully think understand what it was I was doing, and I don’t recall the doctor explaining it more. I was 18 then. I am 33 now, mother of 3 and married to my then boyfriend.

By: Teresa

Teresa — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 13:47:23 +0000

Hi Sandra. Your story is so sad and so very real. What you say is true – that feeling bad about your abortion doesn’t come from ‘the community’ but from within, it is called ‘natural law’ and it is written in all of our hearts as a guide for us to know from the earliest age what is right and what is wrong. And I say that with love and gentleness, not judgement and condemnation.

It is so important that ladies like you tell your story and call for the changes you write about – the each girl had ALL the options explained to them, that abortion wouldn’t ‘fix’ their problem, but would just make their BODY unpregnant but their heart would break.

Your statements “It’s like we’ve all buried it so deep so that we don’t have to look at it. If it was just a normal thing why would we do that?” are so very powerful and I will encourage all young people to read your story so that they may not go over the Broken Heart waterfall.

Know that God is always there for you, even if you don’t believe in Him. He is holding your little one safely in His arms. Praying for you… Love and God bless, Teresa

By: Kate Cann

Kate Cann — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 11:09:23 +0000

Dear Sandra
Thank you for being honest and sharing your story with us, and with other women who find themselves in similar situations.
I’m sorry you were not given the information and support you needed. It is obvious it has impacted your life in some quite negative ways, but sharing this is perhaps a way to a newer and better chapter in your life. You have made some really important statements in your story that show you are not trying to blame anyone else, or dodge away from what happened, but that you are trying to work out how it happened and how you feel about the abortion and yourself now. Can I encourage you to continue this positive path, and get some counselling if you feel like it, to help you sort through how you are feeling?
Please know that we respect you and your story. Your story shows how important it is for women to be given all the information they need, in a way they can understand it. “Nobody talked about what else I might do” is not presenting you with options and giving you a real choice.
I hope you find healing and peace for yourself, and you have made a good start by talking about it.